Older Men

Most people have heard about the Evan Rachel Wood, and three other women who have come forward against Brian Warner (Marilyn Manson). She stated that he groomed her, and gradually abused her. More regarding the allegations in the link below.

Evan Rachel Wood and Others Make Allegations of Abuse Against Marilyn Manson | Vanity Fair

The entire thing reminds me of a toxic relationship I had at age 19. I had just gotten out of a dangerous situation, and was still mentally healing from it. I worked in a small café lunch and dinner shifts. There was an older man in his 40’s who frequented the restaurant, and usually sat in my section. He was a massage therapist, and we would often have great conversations. He asked me if I wanted to hang out, assuring me he did not want to date. Every single time he saw me he flirted, and had intense conversations with me. He spoke of his daughter (who was my age, and she was not able to see her father), his profession, and our little mountain town. Looking back now, I can see the situation through different eyes. He was grooming me, making me feel comfortable with him. It’s so hard to explain, he made me feel special and beautiful, while at the same time he was a father figure. I went to his house a few times, and it was always the same. He gave me a massage, but he did not give me a professional massage. He touched me in other places, and did other things to me. He always said, “we shouldn’t be doing this. I shouldn’t be doing this.” Yet, he always did the things he should not have done again. I wanted to like him, but every time I was around him (especially alone with him), I felt uncomfortable. I also hated how I felt about myself when we were together. I knew something was wrong by the sinking feeling, but felt powerless. I had already been through so much trauma that on some level I thought I deserved it. We did not see each other for long, but when I think back, I can remember how disgusting and powerless I felt. I was a legal adult…but a forty-something year-old man should not be interested in a 19-year-old. I am 47, and I cannot even fathom pursuing a 19-year-old.

The Brian Warner (Marilyn Manson) accusations are upsetting. He was 36 when he started grooming Evan Rachel Wood at age 18. I totally and completely believe the women who have come forward. I deleted all of his albums from my music library. Not too long ago, Judge Cavanagh had allegations against him, and so many people defended him. Another is Elvis Presley. Would you give your 14-year-old the thumbs up to marry a grown man? I’m not talking about two kids in high school together when one is 16 and the other 18. Elvis liked girls between 14-15, and was rumored to be obsessed with virginity. They are both despicable. The link with more information about Elvis is below.

Elvis Presley Was “Obsessed With Virginity”, And Had 14-Year-Old Girls On Tour, Book Claims (shared.com)

The best way to move on from the darkness is to shine a light on it. We MUST talk about these things.

***Feature Photo by Martino Pietropoli

***Second Photo by Eric Ward

Trish Eklund’s first book, Abandoned Nebraska: Echoes of Our Past, was released in November of 2018. Her second photography book, Abandoned Farmhouses and Homesteads of Nebraska: Decaying in the Heartland will be released on February 22, 2021. She is finishing up her third book; Abandoned Farmhouses and Homesteads of Kansas: Home is Where the Heart is. Trish’s photography has been featured on Only in Nebraska, Raw Abandoned, ListVerse, Nature Takes Over, Grime Scene Investigators, and Pocket Abandoned. She has a photo on the cover of: Fine Lines Summer 2020: Volume 29 Issue 2. She is the owner and creator of the photography website, Abandoned, Forgotten, & Decayed. Trish has an essay in the anthology, Hey, Who’s In My House? Stepkids Speak Out by Erin Mantz, and another essay in another anthology: Voices of the Plains Volume III by Nebraska Writer’s Guild and Julie Haase. Her writing has been featured on The Mighty, Huffington Post Plus, Making Midlife Matter, and Her View From Home. She owns, moderates, and writes for the blog: Trigger Warning: Surviving Abuse. She has written four young adult novels and is hard at work on her first adult novel.

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